Merge #21320: build: fix libnatpmp macos cross compile

bd49ac4168 build: fix libnatpmp macos cross compile (fanquake)

Pull request description:

  Currently, our cross-compile of libnatpmp for macOS doesn't work at all.
  The wrong archiver is used, which produces an archive the linker doesn't like.
  This becomes clear when configuring:
  ```bash
  configure:25722: checking for initnatpmp in -lnatpmp
  configure:25747: env -u C_INCLUDE_PATH -u CPLUS_INCLUDE_PATH -u OBJC_INCLUDE_PATH -u OBJCPLUS_INCLUDE_PATH -u CPATH -u LIBRARY_PATH /home/ubuntu/bitcoin/depends/x86_64-apple-darwin18/native/bin/clang++ --target=x86_64-apple-darwin18 <trim>  -Wl,-headerpad_max_install_names -Wl,-dead_strip -Wl,-dead_strip_dylibs conftest.cpp -lnatpmp   >&5
  ld: archive has no table of contents for architecture x86_64
  clang: error: linker command failed with exit code 1 (use -v to see invocation)
  ```

  Fix this by using the right `ar` (we do the same for upnp).

  While we're at it, fix the build so that we are using our c/ppflags.
  In practice this basically means building with `-O2` rather than `-Os`.

  Note that this fixes an issue that is also fixed by #21209. However, given there are reservations about updating to use a newer libnatpmp source, we should just fix this for now.

ACKs for top commit:
  hebasto:
    ACK bd49ac4168, tested:

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depends/packages/libnatpmp.mk

@@ -6,6 +6,7 @@ $(package)_sha256_hash=e1aa9c4c4219bc06943d6b2130f664daee213fb262fcb94dd355815b8
 
 define $(package)_set_vars
   $(package)_build_opts=CC="$($(package)_cc)"
+  $(package)_build_env+=CFLAGS="$($(package)_cflags) $($(package)_cppflags)" AR="$($(package)_ar)"
 endef
 
 define $(package)_build_cmds